(“Can DLP just not be their gay best friend?” Cella asks in mock exasperation.) The Multicultural Greek Council has recognized the group as an official BU Greek letter organization. The group has been well received by other fraternities, and especially sororities. “The sexual aspect of it really doesn’t enter into it at all.”īesides, adds Cella, “if that’s what you were after, you wouldn’t have to do this much work.” “The social aspect of the fraternity is about forming those genuine friendships,” says Dobres. “The best answer I can give is that it’s a brotherly love that we have for each other.”
“There’s this really weird assumption that there’s a large sexual aspect to what we do because we’re differentiating ourselves by sexual orientation,” he says. Pravetz says the fraternity fields a lot of misguided questions about sexual activity. “I really hadn’t heard of anything like it before.”ĭLP dubs itself a social fraternity, but members fund-raise and do community service for organizations like the Greater Boston Food Bank, Rosie’s Place, and Fenway Health, where they answer a hotline for LGBT (lesbian, gay, bisexual, and transgendered) people. Of the 18 students who rushed, 7 were accepted, among them Eric Linder (COM’15). In fall 2011, the group completed its first rush, a monthlong effort with three weekly events-including a potluck and video game night to a screening of Clue and a marathon evening of ice cream, the Rocky Horror Picture Show, and a trip to IHOP.
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Their conversations encouraged Pravetz to form an interest group, and by January 2011, DLP’s national board of directors had granted the first eight pledges colony status, the step before becoming a full chapter. By chance, the biology and science education major had Dobres as his teaching assistant freshman year and learned about DLP through its one-time fraternity president. “It’s just not something you can do, at least not on this campus.”ĭLP founded a Boston-wide chapter in 2001, but the group dwindled and was dissolved in 2007, a year before Pravetz arrived. “You can’t just think about them as straight white males,” says Fernandez, who helped found BU’s chapter of the Latino fraternity Phi Iota Alpha. “And it’s like, ‘Yes, we can do it too.’”ĭLP members have a chance to change the image of the traditional fraternity man, says Raul Fernandez (COM’00), assistant director of the Howard Thurman Center. People say, “Wait, what? You are in a frat?” he says. Everyone’s willing to say that they don’t discriminate, but we’re trying to be leaders against the de facto discrimination that might occur.”Ĭella still gets some double takes when he says he’s meeting with fraternity brothers. “All fraternities have antidiscrimination clauses in their bylaws.
“I think there’s a need for it in collegiate Greek life,” says Ethan Pravetz (SED’12, CAS’12), DLP’s BU president and pledge educator. Other than Delta Phi Upsilon, a Greek organization founded by gay men of color, DLP is the only nationwide fraternity for gay, bisexual, and progressive men. They are among the 15 alumni, active members, or pledges in the BU colony of DLP, which was founded in 1986 and now has 26 chapters and 6 colonies in the United States and Canada. I don’t think that other gay organizations or gay student groups necessarily offer that kind of bond.”Įveryone at the table agrees.
I have friendships all across the country and some that go back that full decade. “And then, two months later,” he says, “I’m at his graduation crying because Angelo is graduating and probably leaving BU. He recalls the group’s first induction ceremony, in January 2011, when he worried that he wouldn’t be able to pick Arcangelo Cella (CAS’11, LAW’14) out from the crowd to give him his pin. Sitting in BU Central one recent afternoon, he is surrounded by half a dozen “little brothers,” who jokingly jab him about his age. Now, a decade later, Dobres (CAS’05, GRS’12) is a graduate student at BU and one of two mentors for the fraternity’s new BU colony. His new siblings were members of Delta Lambda Phi, a social fraternity that welcomes gay, bisexual, and progressive members. Jonathan Dobres came to BU back in 2001 hoping to make new friends what he found, he says, was a whole new family.